It’s not something we like to think about, but given the amount of time people spend in the office these days, cheating with a co-worker can (and does) happen. If you are feeling suspicious, there are some possible signs your husband is cheating on a coworker, and you may start noticing these little habits.
Whether you want to confront your husband and seek a divorce is up to you, but it’s important to find out if he’s cheating on you or not. Here are eight signs to look out for if you suspect your husband is cheating with a co-worker.
1. Always Working Late
Maybe your husband is legitimately working on his career, so he’s putting extra time in at the office. This could also be one of the warning signs of cheating. If your husband is constantly working late, he could be meeting with his co-worker and simply using work as a cover. The key here is: is this a new thing? Does it happen often? Certainly, if your husband never worked late before and now all of a sudden does, it may be a red flag.
2. Sudden Care in Appearance
This is one of the biggest signs your husband is cheating with a coworker. It’s actually one of the hallmarks of cheating. If your husband didn’t care what he looked like and rocked a beer belly, an unkempt beard, or simply didn’t put much effort into how he dressed and smelled for the office – and now all of a sudden does – it could be an indicator that he’s cheating with a co-worker. Is he cutting down on carbs? Hitting the gym? Shopping for nicer work clothes or cologne? Pay attention to these warning signs.
3. Constantly Stepping Away for Calls or Texting Too Much
This one is a bit tricky, but it could be one of the signs your husband is cheating with a coworker. In today’s day and age, let’s face it – we’re all guilty of this one. So, caution must be taken when using this sign to determine if your husband is cheating. He could be taking calls from his boss, or clients. When he takes a call, is he insisting he take them in private suddenly? Is he talking in a hushed voice? Is he hiding his phone from you? These may all be signs that he’s not addicted to his phone like most of us – he’s cheating.
4. Acting Distant from You
Does your once loving husband want nothing to do with you? Does it seem like whenever you speak to him, he gets annoyed or irritated? This is common when a spouse is cheating, since it’s hard to keep two relationships going at once. Naturally, he may only be able to focus on one of the relationships (and that is no longer your relationship). Your husband could also be feeling guilty, and as a result, finds it easier to push you away. Look for a change in his mood and how he acts toward you. Is he also canceling plans with you? These are all yet more signs that something isn’t quite right.
5. Stopped Opening up to You
Further to the previous point, if your husband has stopped opening up to you about his feelings, it could be because he’s found someone else to open up to. He could now be investing emotionally in his other relationship, so you no longer hear what’s on his mind. Guilt comes into play here as well. It may make your husband feel too guilty if he confides his worries in you so he just doesn’t anymore.
6. More Business Trips Than Usual
Chances are you know your husband’s work schedule just as well as he does. If you notice a spike in the number of business trips he’s taking, this could be another sign that your husband is cheating with a co-worker. The business trips are being used as a cover to spend extra time with this co-worker.
7. He is Now the Subject of Gossip
If you’ve heard some gossip about your husband, whether through a mutual friend, social media, or another way, this may be a sign that he’s up to no good. Although gossip is unfounded a lot of the time, this could be something else to look out for and may be another piece to the cheating puzzle. People could have picked up on him spending too much time with one person. Keep your eyes and ears open.
8. Your Gut Feeling is Trying to Tell You Something
Your gut feeling – also known as your intuition – is not something you should ignore. If you have a feeling something is amiss, you could be right. While all these signs could mean something else, if you have a strong gut feeling (and your intuition is usually right) you may be onto something. There is also the danger of being labeled as “the crazy wife” so be careful how you proceed here.
These signs could help you determine whether your husband is cheating on you with a co-worker. If you now feel stronger than ever that this is, in fact, the truth, it’s time to ramp up your investigation.